Killing me with kindness

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2008/feb/27/worklifebalance

This article shows that woman who have babies often ‘waste’ their talents and move down the career lader. They ‘chose’ jobs that allow them to put their childcarre responsibilities first.  Quelle suprise….do we need studies to tell us this? 

 when i had my son I was a recently quaified accountant; I had asked my boss what i could do whilst on maternity leave to stay uptodate- he’d replied that I was going to be busy enough and we’d worry about it when I got back. When I returned from maternity leave I found that I was given a ‘light’workoad with little responsibility. This was an act of consideration…had I stayed I would have found that as I hadn’t done certain things I wouldn’t get promoted…however I wasn’t going to bwe given the opportunity to do anything.

I left. And took up a more demanding and rewarding job. I didn’t tell them I had a child at the interview….

I’m not a mother!!

It was Mothers Day on Sunday. My son made me a mothers day card at school and was delighted to give it to me. He also presented me with random stuff throughout the day (half a biscuit, a stone, a pine cone). I thought this was quite sweet.

 some friends of mine sent me text messages wishing me happy mothers day…somehow I found this disturbing and it made me want to shout I AM NOT A MUM!! Nobody texted me on my annual performance review day….

More disturbingly when my son was little (6 months) people kept asking me what my husband would get me for mothers day…to which I wanted to shout I’M NOT HIS MUM!! Luckily my husband knows this and got me nothing thus avoiding years of recrimination…